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A FENG SHUI CLASS

BY MEGHAN WALLACE JAMES

 
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  • A Call To Action



    Our society is suffering from a documented, multifaceted INTIMACY CRISIS:

    a global sex recession

    misogyny deeply embedded into the home front

    overstuffed homes, draining sensuality from the foundation

    ・ self storage as a multi-billion dollar industry

    ・ lives lived online, filtered & cropped into oblivion

    ・ dating apps galore, yet panic when a cute stranger says hello 'IRL'

    ・ bad porn & bad porn role play

    ・ couples scrolling away in bed, as opposed to talking, touching

    ・ the pervasive glorification of busy

    ・ modern parenthood, raising children in a manner so far removed from the communal tribes of our ancestors

    ALL THIS, yet beautifully, we are hungry for change, a change we feel deep in our mind’s eye and deep in our loins. We yearn for that warm welcome home at the end of our too long days.

    FREUD’S REPETITION COMPULSION
    THE DESIRE TO RETURN TO AN EARLIER STATE OF THINGS


    OUR CYCLICAL NATURE


    Humans, SWEET creatures of habit, traversing the same energetic loop ad nauseam.

    IN LOVE:
    Enacting the same romantic drama with different actors. Exhausting. Familiar. Just delicious enough to numb the pain.

    ENTITLED: LA PETITE MORT


    AT HOME:
    Recreating the internal environment of our earliest traumas, yet disguised through the dopamine of unconscious consumerism.

    ENTITLED: UNEVENNESS


    NEWTON’S FIRST LAW
    AN OBJECT WILL REMAIN AT REST OR IN UNIFORM MOTION UNLESS ACTED UPON BY AN EXTERNAL FORCE


    THEN FENG SHUI


    a rhythmic practice of continual refinement:
    When it becomes habit to edit & elevate our home, it becomes habit to edit & elevate our personal { sex } life.

    an art form of boundaries:
    The stronger our spatial boundaries, the more graceful our personal boundaries.

    a tool enabling high level pattern sorting:
    The more we align our space, the more fine tuned our intuitive reflexes become.

    a science of devotion:
    When we are devoted to our home, it is devoted to us; the chemistry compounds & attracts aligned others.

    ENTITLED: WHEN CLARITY CUMS


    ✍︎ feels on the graphic content? Study the visuals; allow them to permeate. Note what comes up for you - those aha’s !



    ✫ ASSIGNMENT #1: DECLARE YOUR BOUNDARIES ✫


    WALK THE PERIMETER OF YOUR HOME - WHETHER YOU OWN OR RENT, LIVE IN A SINGLE FAMILY HOME OR AN APARTMENT COMPLEX. OBSERVE THE STATE OF AFFAIRS. WHAT DO YOU SEE? Random remnants? Wild weeds?

    ✍︎ ANY APPARENT METAPHORS connecting your OPTICS AND your LIVED EXPERIENCE? Home perimeters and personal boundaries / emotional standards in relationship are inexplicably linked. Note the correlations.

    ☞ Love on your outskirts. Clean up the messes - whether or not they are “yours” to clean up - for here you live. Declare a sacred circle of protection around your abode. You should feel a different immediately.

    ❀ if so inclined, ask your favorite florist to save you a bag of rose petal droppings and sprinkle them around your home’s perimeter. Start at the front door and walk clockwise. Say a mantra or prayer, or just listen to a badass love song.

    ENTITLED: TWO HALVES OF THE SAME CIRCLE


  • Tantric Meditation



    The Tantric religious world is a world of images:

    "sculptures in temples, likenesses of gods or goddesses used in ritual, statues, paintings, mandalas, or diagrams of all sorts… But the ritual, too, is a visionary world, of images mentally evoked, perceived in oneself or mentally projected onto a support… Of every ritual element or notion there can be a perceptible form."

    Words by Andre Padoux from his introduction to the beautiful book Tantra Song, a keen library addition.

    ☞ STUDY ↓ to receive a claircognizant FENG SHUI transmission; MOST VITAL.




    ENTITLED: EYE OF THE BEHOLDER


    ✍︎ THOUGHTS ON THE ↑? YOU ARE LEARNING !



    ✫ ASSIGNMENT #2: THE LUCKY IN LOVE CHECKLIST ✫

    or How to Implement Tantric Ambiance on the Homefront


    With an Open Heart and Detective Eyes, observe your home:

    → WELCOMING ENERGY IN →

    I can see my address from the street:
    my outdoor lights are in working order:
    my front landscaping has direction & vibrancy:
    my trash cans are not visible from the entrance, trash day excluded:
    my doormat is attractive yet effective:
    my mailbox looks worthy of receiving checks, not only bills:
    my doorbell works:
    I use my actual front door, at least a few times a week:
    my front door looks fresh & welcoming, yet secure & safe:
    I can open my front door with ease:
    → CIRCULATING SAID ENERGY →

    stepping into my home, I witness an inspiring 'Line of Sight' - looks & feels good to be home:
    I have a system for removing & storing the 'Trappings of My Day' - shoes, bag, jacket, keys, mail, etc.:
    my flowers & plants are real, never faux - real life, not an emblem of life:
    my art is uplifting & inspiring in nature:
    my self help books are not openly on display:
    my home is designed for at least two:
    my home is free of remnants from past relationships:
    my home is free of copious amounts of childhood memorabilia:
    my mobile screen is in one piece:
    my mobile device is free of remnants from past relationships:
    my refrigerator is clean - inside & out - with delicious contents to serve a guest:
    I have a system for fresh drinking water that does not involve plastic bottles:
    my oven is in working order & relatively clean:
    all of the burners on my stovetop are in working order:
    my bathtub can be bathed in:
    my plunger & toilet brush are not on display beside my toilet - they live with the cleaning supplies:
    I do not have warning labels all over my windows & blinds, nor devices, nor light fixtures, etc.:
    I have fresh lightbulbs & clean light fixtures - no dead bug collections here:
    there are no piles on my floor:
    there are NO piles on my counters:
    EVERY POSSESSION HAS A HOME:
    I have a rhythm for cleaning my home, or having my home cleaned:
    I have a rhythm for bringing life into my home - produce, flora & fauna, friends:
    I am storage unit free - all of my possessions fit comfortably in my home:
    my car is in working order with an up-to-date registration:
    my garage can physically house my car, or has been intentionally retrofitted - 'tis not jammed full of junk:

    WHEW → WHAT IS FALSE?

    Celebrate what is FALSE, for transitioning fallacies into TRUTH is your Moving Meditation / is your Lucky in love medication.

    Embrace this newly formed To Do List as the work to prepare your Temple for Love.

    ✔︎ Consider transposing the Action Items to your Reminders Application in your iphone { cue android equivalent }, for this checklist resets with each FRESH open.

    Many cultures view work as prayer. Only make adjustments from a place of peaceful alignment.

  • Filthy Baby



    the bagua is the energetic map navigated within your feng shui practice. in broad strokes, it divides your floor plan into nine equal sized zones / 'guas' each with a unique essence.

    your bagua scope is relatively narrow here in sex ed. See that sensual streak anchoring the map? An Earthy grounding presence: WISDOM, HEALTH & LOVE - THREE REQUISITE INGREDIENTS TO COOK UP A PASSIONATE, ADULT RELATIONSHIP. ❤︎ ❤︎ ❤︎

    ENTITLED: STREAKING


    Barefoot, walk this line in your home. Start in WISDOM, front left, bending your knees and really getting into the space. Slowly stroll through HEALTH, middle, and up to LOVE, back right. When in LOVE, take a seat on the floor.

    ✍︎ Reflect: Was it a smooth journey? Hit any blocks? If there is a metaphor present, take the time to properly unpack it. It can help to muse and talk out loud to your home.

    Linger here in LOVE by now lying on the floor. Relax your body, head to toe. Move in ways that feel good to you, stretching and sprawling. Observe your surroundings from this new POV for a most interesting perspective. This is how your home looks while reclined in the throws of passion. Fun to consider that this is also how your home looks to a wee babe or an animal companion.

    What do you see? How does it feel? Any Action Items to add to your Lucky In Love Checklist?

    For Your Consideration I: MASTURBATE

    Make love to yourself Here & Now. As you climax, consciously radiate your sexual energy throughout your space. Orgasm as the new sage?

    For Your Consideration II: PICNIC

    Very intimate to entertain from the floor; harks to ancient times & mature cultures. An Interior Picnic is a delightful fourth or fifth date. Antique quilt or a Japanese chabudai with a few goodies on a wooden board... Will tell you much about your paramour. Would you, could you host an Interior Picnic?

    For Your Consideration III: PRACTICE PLANT MAGIC

    ・ Head to LOVE

    ・ EliminatE clutter & bulkiness however possible - SPACE

    ・ Add a pair of plants, one more yin in appearance & one more yang, to activate the delicious polarity of strong sexual attraction ❋✺

    ・ Position the plants in tandem, or in active dialogue - body language

    ・ Get ready to rumble !

    Please note that plants often take the hit when you are moving major energy. If you are considering investing in epic plants, please do any heavy lifting before you add fresh life.



    ✫ ASSIGNMENT #3A: SPIRIT BATH ✫

    FOR A QUIET NIGHT AT HOME


    You’ve been rolling around on the floor. Time to clean yourself up.

    Run a luxurious bath. Really do your thing - salts, oils, a glass of Sancerre - whatever floats your beautiful boat.

    Reinstate your Detective Eyes as you ease into the hot water. For Right Then - in a cosmic rabbit hole - it turns out that Your Bathroom is actually Your New Lover’s Bathroom. ✷ Oh, insane mirror of intimacy !

    LOOK AROUND:

    Q. What information can you gather about your lover? About their personality? lifestyle?

    Q. Are you Turned On or Turned Off?

    Q. What would you do differently if this was in fact Your Bathroom?

    As your soaking research concludes, drain the bath, yet remain within to really feel the water leaving the bath. Ask for what no longer serves you to drain along with the water.

    ✍︎ Dry off and promptly journal about your insights. As you may have guessed, it does not get much more intimate than the bathroom; these particular rooms communicate { too? } much to those who visit them.

    P.S. Any more Action Items to add to your Lucky In Love Checklist?

    ★★


    ✫ ASSIGNMENT #3B: activate LOVE CORNER(s) ! ✫

    FOR A PRODUCTIVE DAY AT HOME


    · WALK IN YOUR FRONT DOOR

    · STROLL TO THE MOST BACK, MOST RIGHT CORNER OF YOUR HOME

    · HI LOVE CORNER

    · IF YOU HAVE MULTIPLE FLOORS, YOU HAVE MULTIPLE LOVE CORNERS

    · IN FACT, EACH ROOM HAS A LOVE CORNER

    · ENTER THE ROOM AND GO TO THE FAR BACK RIGHT CORNER

    · HI LITTLE LOVE CORNER

    · LOVE CORNERS LIKE:

    · cleanliness

    · THE ELEMENT OF EARTH { ex: pottery, stone, crystals, plants }

    · SENSUAL DECOR & COLORS

    · DUALITY { PAIRS OF ITEMS }

    · TEXTURED GRACE - SOMETHING TO HOLD ONTO

    · YIN GOODNESS { more coming soon }

    · SPACE - LOTS OF SPACE

    · RYTHYM YET FREEDOM { and/or the energy of your ideal relationship }


  • Opposites Attract


    UMMMMMM, IS YOUR HOME BALANCED?


    ☯︎

    POLARITY
    the state of having two opposite or contradictory tendencies, opinions, or aspect


    ✓ A CENTRAL TENANT OF FENG SHUI

    ✓ A CENTRAL TENANT OF FUN SEX






    ✍︎ Use post-it-notes to label attributes around your home.

    Determine if your space communicates a disparity. overly feminine? overly masculine? how to bridge the gap?



    ✫ ASSIGNMENT #4: DREAMQUEST ✫


    When you heavily Feng Shui, your dreams turn wild & wicked. So keep that legal pad bedside to really capture the metaphorical jewels as they are symbolically downloaded.

    “As above, so below, as within, so without, as the universe, so the soul.”
    Hermes Trismegistus


    ✍︎ In the early morning light, post dream perhaps / PRE MORNING ROMP PERHAPS, muse about your favorite hotel experience, or about an ideal hotel experience. You are there for a long weekend with your lover(s).

    { Need Hotel Inspiration: il Pelicano, George V, Amangiri, Post Ranch Inn }

    Not a writer? Open Voice Memos on your phone & speak your truth. Get mad poetic.

    Prompts:

    ・ Who is with you? Why?

    ・ How does your body feel when you open the door to your suite?

    ・ Take off your shoes; what does the ground feel like beneath your feet?

    ・ What is within your 'Line of Sight'?

    ・ Walk around. Describe the decor & the ambiance.

    ・ What is on the walls, if anything?

    ・ Describe the bedding & towels - colors, textures, materials.

    ・ What do you hear?

    ・ What do you smell?

    ・ What are you called to do first?

    ・ What does Making Love mean to you?

    ・ Post romp, what do you slip on?

    ・ You’re hungry & parched: what do you order from Room Service?

    ・ How do you feel upon checkout?

    Why limit what you crave to a place out there when you could incorporate your desires here and now?

    It is time to create a haven - in which to sleep, dream and fuck - on the regular.

  • A Room Of One's Own
    Ahem - Room For Another


    No matter where it lands on The bagua map, your bedroom is considered another love zone / 'gua'. Keep this in mind on your Feng Shui journey.

    Mixed messages


    There is a psychological concept, called APPROACH-AVOIDANCE CONFLICT, which is visually encapsulated in many bedrooms around the world. basically boils down to the good ‘ole Push-Pull - You simultaneously want yet don’t want what you are actively manifesting,

    Approach-avoidance conflicts occur when there is one goal or event that has both positive and negative effects or characteristics that make the goal appealing and unappealing simultaneously. For example, marriage is a momentous decision that has both positive and negative aspects.
    WIKIPEDIA


    like, You want a steamy sex life, Yet you keep a mound of dirty laundry at the foot of your bed.

    ✍︎ Journal for a stretch, Contemplating how the concept of APPROACH-AVOIDANCE CONFLICT has taken root within Your bedroom { sex LIFE }.

    AN EASY EQUATION


    WALKING INTO YOUR BEDROOM SHOULD TRIGGER ONE OF TWO THOUGHTS:

    1) I feel like fucking

    2) I feel like sleeping

    well fucked + well rested = cosmic, kismet fuel to takeover the world


    ☞ Go outside your home. Put your BARE FEET on the earth. CLOSE YOUR EYES AND BREATHE DEEPLY. ACCESS REVERENT GRATITUDE.

    OPEN YOUR DETECTIVE EYES AND WALK IN, STRAIGHT TO THE THRESHOLD OF YOUR BEDROOM. Observe the state of affairs with attempted neutrality. drop your story { excuses } and listen: what does your bedroom have to say to you?

    Does this seem like the room of a well fucked, well rested individual?



    ✫ ASSIGNMENT #5: THE MISSION SEXY ZEN CHECKLIST ✫

    OR HOW TO SET THE STAGE FOR PASSIONATE LEISURE IN THE BEDROOM


    With a sense of loving abundance, observe your bedroom:

    → CREATE A YUMMY VACUUM →

    I RUTHLESSLY PURGED TO OPEN UP SPACE, LITERALLY & METAPHORICALLY:
    MY BED FRAME / MATTRESS DID NOT WEATHER A DIVORCE, A BAD BREAKUP nOR A LOSS:
    IF I HAVE A BED / MATTRESS TO RELEASE, I WILL CHANGE THE STORY WITH A GENEROUS ACT, GIFTING TO A HUMAN IN NEED:
    MY BED IS IN A POWER POSITION - AGAINST A SOLID WALL, WITH A CLEAR VIEW OF THE DOOR, YET NOT IN LINE WITH THE DOOR:
    YES, BEDROOM MIRRORS CAN BE FUN, YET THERE IS NOT ONE DIRECTLY FACING MY BED - NO NEED TO BOUNCE MY OWN SHIT BACK AT ME WHILE I SLEEP:
    I REMOVED ALL ELECTRONICS POSSIBLE, TO MAKE MY BEDROOM FAR LESS ‘WIRED’:
    IF I HAVE A TELEVISION, IT IS BECAUSE IT IS crucial TO MY HAPPINESS:
    I DO NOT SLEEP WITH MY CELL PHONE RIGHT BESIDE MY HEAD ☠︎:
    I WILL CONTEMPLATE BEDSIDE SCONCES AS OPPOSED TO BEDSIDE LAMPS, TO FURTHER MITIGATE ‘WIRED’ ENERGY:
    I REMOVED ALL FAMILY PHOTOS FROM MY BEDROOM - NO NEED TO HAVE MY LOVED ONES OBSERVE MY LOVE MAKING - EWw:
    I ‘RESTOCKED’ MY HOME BY ASSIGNING NEW HOMES - OUTSIDE OF THE BEDROOM - TO ALL NECESSITIES THAT ARE NEITHER SEXY NOR ZEN { HAMPERS, CHILDREN’S TOYS, BILLS, ETC. }:
    IT IS CLEAN & CLEAR BENEATH MY BED:
    I MINIMIZED THE CONTENTS OF MY BEDSIDE TABLE(S) TO THE ESSENTIAL:
    I AM CONTEMPLATING REMOVING UNNECESSARY FURNITURE FROM MY BEDROOM - CREATING SENSUAL MONASTERY VIBES FOR INSPIRING CLARITY:
    MY DESK IS NOT IN MY BEDROOM, AS I VALUE A WORK-LIFE BALANCE, & DESERVE A REPRISE & RESET ON THE DAILY:
    IF I HAVE A RUG OR CARPETING, IT IS CLEAN & STAIN-FREE - FRESH GROUNDING VIBES ONLY:
    THE ART ON MY BEDROOM WALLS FEELS LIKE A PORTAL TO A HOT DREAM REALM:
    MY CLOSET IS FOR MY WARDROBE & ACCESSORIES; therefore, MY BEDROOM IS NOT:
    Shoes possess the energy of everywhere I have ever been; therefore, they are not on open display:
    NOTHING IN here FEELS TOXIC OR TRIGGERING:
    → FILL delicious void WITH SACRED SENSUALITY →

    IF I AM NEW BED SHOPPING, I SHALL LOOK FOR one that is WOODEN, SOLID, ETHICALLY MADE, & ELEGANTLY TIMELESS:
    IF I AM MATTRESS SHOPPING, I SHALL BUY one that is ORGANIC & HEALTHY - SAME WITH PILLOWS & DUVETS:
    IF I AM BEDSIDE TABLE SHOPPING, I SHALL LOOK FOR MATCHING OR COMPLEMENTARY UNITS, TO REINFORCE EQUAL PARTNERSHIP:
    MY BEDSIDE TABLES ARE INCOGNITO ALTARS TO THE SEX LIFE OF MY DREAMS { EDIBLE LUBE? EROTIC POETRY? }:
    I TREAT MYSELF TO DREAMY, COZY LINENS AT LEAST ONCE A YEAR - NO NEED TO KEEP OLD, TATTERED LINENS:
    I TREAT MYSELF TO A FUN NEW SEX TOY WHEN THE MOOD STRIKES:
    THE PAINT ON MY WALLS IS FRESH & LOVELY:
    I HAVE SOFT, NURTURING WINDOW TREATMENTS, which CREATE A COCOON FOR MY SEXUALITY:
    THERE IS LIFE present { VIA FLOWERS, A PLANT, A CRYSTAL, AIRFLOW, ETC. }:
    I IMPRINT WITH SEX MAGIC REGULARLY - SOLO, IN TANDEM, IN ORGY:
    I HAVE INCORPORATED LAYERS OF TEXTURED WARMTH IN MY DECOR, GIVING THE VIBES SOMETHING TO HOLD ON TO - NOTHING TOO SLICK NOR COLD:
    My bedroom turns me on:
    I AM PROUD TO HOST A LOVER IN MY BEDROOM:
    My bedroom soothes my soul:
    I SLEEP BEAUTIFULLY IN MY BEDROOM:

    AGAIN, WHEW → WHAT IS FALSE?

    Celebrate what is FALSE, for transitioning fallacies into TRUTH is your NEXT Moving Meditation / is your MISSION SEXY ZEN ACTIVATION.

    Embrace this newly formed To Do List as the work to prepare your Temple for Love MAKING.

    ✔︎ Consider transposing the Action Items to your Reminders Application in your iphone { cue android equivalent }, for this checklist resets with each FRESH open.

    PLEASE BE REMINDED: Many cultures view work as prayer. Only make adjustments from a place of peaceful alignment.



    “We're in a freefall into future. We don't know where we're going. Things are changing so fast, and always when you're going through a long tunnel, anxiety comes along. And all you have to do to transform your hell into a paradise is to turn your fall into a voluntary act. It's a very interesting shift of perspective and that's all it is... joyful participation in the sorrows and everything changes.”
    Joseph Campbell


  • Money Shot


    Thank you for participating, for partnering with your home and for playing with your energy.

    Class has cum to a close


    yet - There is an element of delayed gratification in Feng Shui. While feelings are felt immediately, shifts take a beat to percolate. Three weeks and three months are strong mile markers to track your progress.

    Please Share your updates:
    support@meghanwallacejames.com


    ☮︎


    SEX ED FOR ADULTS CONTRIBUTORS


    GRAPHIC DESIGN

    SARITA JACCARD
    @sarita.jaccard

    IMAGE CURATION

    KRISTIN FAY GRANT FOWLER
    DUST TO DUST FURNITURE
    @dusttodust


    SEX ED FOR ADULTS bibliography


    I. Japanese Wood Joint, Assemblage du Bois: l’Europe et le Japon Face à Face

    II. Sheila Rock photo of SEX at 430 Kings Road London, 1974

    III. Carlo Mollino Chair c. 1959. Image via Christies

    IV. Jean Lurçat embroidered chairs in the sitting room of Maison de Verre by Pierre Chareau c. 1932

    V. Carlo Mollino, Casa Devalle, Turin 1939

    VI & VII. Maria Pergay, Belt Silver Lids, 1957
    Suzanne Demisch and Stephane Danant. (2011)
    Maria Pergay: Complete works 1957-2010. Damiani.

    VIII. Eighties bedroom image via lamignonette.tumblr.com

    IX. Emile Jacques Ruhlmann, Lit Soleil Bed, c. 1923

    X. Image via Terrence Conran's, The bed and bath book, 1978

    XI. Image via vagabond--heart.tumblr.com

    XII. Pierre Paulin, Layout for a Bedroom for Roche Bobois, 1965. Chloé Pitiot. (2016). Pierre Paulin. Paris: Éditions du Centre Pompidou.

    III. Adolf Loos, Bar Table, c. 1908. Eva B. Ottillinger. (1994). Adolf Loos: Wohnkonzepte und Möbelentwürfe. Residenz Verlag.

    XIV. Ingo Maurer, Lucellino Table Lamp, c. 1992


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